The Virtue of Self-Care: A Tale, a Definition, and Why Coming Out is an Act of Love

A Super Short Story

Consider Josh and Deb. The two, happily married for ten years, are chatting over drinks while awaiting their food. Deb begins to share about a difficult conversation she had with her brother that day, clearly seeking understanding and support from Josh.

Josh, a generally supportive husband, seems to be listening but eventually bursts out in frustration: “listen, Deb, I just can’t deal with this right now!” Josh’s hands are shaking. “I’ve got so much on my plate at work, and a lot of problems I’m trying to solve, and I can’t solve yours right now. I can’t even figure out how to catch my breath!”

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The Virtue of Wonder: Loving Beauty but Not Bombs

Can the stars in the sky, the intricacies of the human brain, or the impressive performance of a talented individual enhance our ability to care for our children, be a good friend, or relate to our actual or imagined “enemies” peacefully rather than violently? I think yes.

The virtue of wonder—a habit of amazement, reverence, awe, and curiosity—is essential to love. And we love by giving but also receiving.

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Six Reasons Love Made Me a Progressive Christian

IMG_0460I am a progressive Christian. I did not choose this, like selecting which kind of ice cream my wife is most in the mood for (as long as it has chocolate but no nuts, I am probably safe). It is probably more accurate to say I grew into it.

I have always been a follower of Jesus. I suspect I always will be. But the way I understand the nature of that “following” has evolved.

In short, I am a progressive Christian because of Love. I think you can also have Love and not come to think as I have. But I think that Love has been the driving force behind every “progressive shift” in my spirituality. Six examples come to mind: Continue reading “Six Reasons Love Made Me a Progressive Christian”

The Language of Love

“The language of love is the only language we can be sure is spoken and understood by God.”

—Northrop Frye, 1912-1991

“Now you’re speaking my language!” If you said this to me, I would assume a shift had occurred in our conversation.

Before the shift, the things I was saying meant little or nothing to you, for any number of reasons. After the shift, I’ve got your attention. What I’m saying now is compelling and relevant. It speaks to your condition. It aligns with your vision of how things ought to be and of what matters most.

God’s language is love. I believe that what God finds compelling, more than religious enthusiasm, more than right belief, more than the good causes for which we advocate, is love. Continue reading “The Language of Love”